This is a post that has been ruminating in my head over the last two months or so. Every so often I want to write it, but I think I start feeling that I cannot do it justice. So I have decided not to try and do it justice, but just to free associate it and see what happens.

This post is about the wonderfully complicated world of the ex significant other... of a close friend. You know the drill if you are not a complete social cripple, or the person is a complete ****, you tend to end up becoming decent to pretty good friends with the significant other of one of your close friends.

This is normal and expected, the complication arises when the relationship ends and you are all friendly with this person. The standard solution is that you leave with who you came with. Which is that if you were the guy's friend you are no longer friends with the girl and vice-versa.

However it is not always so simple, because you may have truly become friends with the person and you don't want to throw away a friendship on a technicality as good friendships are hard to find. On the other hand you do not want to aggravate your friend's issues because after all they were your friend first.

I was looking for a pithy "solution" to wrap around this little quandary but none decided to present itself. So I have decided to throw it open to my last few remaining users to find out what you think.

Now I know that it depends on the situation and all that, so what I want from you is what your normal inclination is before you allow the situation to have an effect? Don't all talk at once now :D

Oh and this is sorta like my three year anniversary so say something nice